It may be something that your teen may seem reluctant to admit, but teens do believe that what their family thinks, really does matter to them.

A study led by Simmons School of Social Work Professor Helen Reinherz shows that it is of paramount importance to adolescents that they feel valued by their family, and is an important factor in their optimal mental health. Knowing that their family values their opinions promotes an adolescent’s self-esteem, and reduces the risk for major depression, suicidal thoughts and other mental health maladjustments, according to the study.

The study also shows that adolescents who believe that they can rely on family members for advice, or who have parents or siblings they can view as confidants, have significantly increased chances for good academic achievement and overall healthy social and psychological adjustment…

“The common belief is that the adolescent is turning away from the family — that their peers suddenly become the major influence in their lives,” Reinherz said. “But in reality, it is of paramount importance to most adolescents that they feel valued as a family member and that their opinions count…

So, as your tween or teen appears to find friends to be more important, consider that you are still the major influencer on their lives. You must stay involved, and not be tempted to pull back - and turn from parent to friend.

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